Topic > Intimacy - 995

Technological changes over the decades have had a drastic impact on the way relationships are formed. To compare generational perspectives on the topic, I interviewed Ellen Guenther, married for 19 years, who dated numerous men before getting married at age 25. However, learning the new ways of talking to a crush through my friends has given her a unique perspective on modern love. Ellen's take on the evolution of intimacy is that relationships will suffer due to teenagers' inability to hold a conversation and connect in person. To begin the interview, I asked Guenther what high school she attended and what year she graduated. The age difference between Guenther and me is twenty-eight years, which offers different generational perspectives on high school. Guenther explains that his high school experience wasn't necessarily easier than the current high school dynamic, but different. When he was in school, if you hadn't met someone in person, you wouldn't have talked to him. On the contrary, today, thanks to social media, it is possible to have a close relationship with a person you have never met. She believes that "children choose the easy path" when it comes to forming bonds and relationships. Instead of experiencing awkward moments that can occur when talking to a new person, teenagers now avoid unpleasant moments by starting a conversation online. Another problem that teenagers are avoiding is that of arguments or disagreements. Instead of facing a person face-to-face to discuss the issue at hand, Guenther believes that teens will hide behind their screens to appear more intimidating and less vulnerable. For example, instead of telling a person why you don't like them, you will block them on Facebook or delete their number... half of the paper... has it changed over the years? If so, do you think this new way will damage the relationships of these generations? Guenther said yes, and explained his response by saying, “I think people need to learn to create relationships without a screen to hide who they really are. People need to trust who they are and not believe that a screen will protect them from embarrassing or painful moments." He said there is no better way to get to know someone than to have a face-to-face conversation with them. His generation relied heavily on communication skills, this generation can get away with hiding behind the use of technology. Ultimately, like everything else, intimacy has changed over the years. The real problem that could result is not the inability to talk to a crush, but the detrimental effect it could have on future generations who don't know better.